Hello darlings, it has been an entire lifetime since I last posted… but life. However, I do have good news. No, I am still not divorced, but it’s good news none-the-less.
At the tender age of 41 I can finally say that I did, something that most of you have probably done at least once if not more: I bought my first car. Let me repeat that…I BOUGHT MYSELF A CAR!!! Although I have had a car since I was 16, I never bought them. I went from my parents buying me cars to my future ex- buying them for me. So, this is HUGE for me!
This purchase is about so much more than a vehicle, it’s how I started to reclaim my power! My previous car, was of course in my ex’s name as were all my other cars. One day he presented me with all of these bills for “his” car which quite frankly he knew that I could not afford pay. Long story short, I told him that I couldn’t and wouldn’t pay for something that was not MINE. So, he took the car away…
There I was in the middle of winter with no car, and two very active kids who needed to get to school and all of their activities. The kids were a little confused by my sudden lack of transportation but I assured them it was temporary and that mommy would figure it out. Where there is a will there is a way, right? My sister-friend stepped up bigtime and let me use her car when she could. When that wasn’t an option, there was always the bus, uber, taxis, and my own two feet! Honestly, I have never felt so free. Taking back my power was sweet.
Because this life is what it is, I couldn’t just go and get another car, how boring would that be? In fact, after a few months, I found a car and went to buy it, I even signed the contract…
In Switzerland, when you are seeking a line of credit they ask you to provide a certificate that you do not have any outstanding debts. I thought everything was all good, so I went to pick up this certificate. Little did I know that I owed 9,000.00 to two creditors!! I was shell-shocked; I didn’t have 9,000.00 francs and I knew that I would never qualify for a lease with that debt.
After I got over my anger, disappointment, and a whole host of other emotions I realized I did have the money. It was hanging in my closet and sitting in my jewelry box. If you follow the blog, you know that this is not the first time I had to liquidate my assets Selling-Coco However, this time I was on a mission. I posted 3 Chanel bags and some pieces of Cartier jewelry on Vestaire Collective, a luxury resale site. Luckily for me all of the items sold so I could pay off that god-awful debt!
Then, I went back to the dealership where my last three cars came from and negotiated the hell out of MY new car. I think the salesman thought I was a bit crazy asking for all these discounts, but if there is one thing I have learned is: you never get what you don’t ask for! And at the end of the day, he gave me ALL the discounts I asked for! I picked up my car yesterday and could not have been happier. Even the salesman was, happy for me. We were going over the paperwork and when he handed me the carte grise (registration) he said, “Now you have your own car, with YOUR name on the title!”
I can’t wait to see the look on my boys’ faces when I pick them up in my new car. I told them that I would figure it out, and I did. If you can’t keep your word, especially with your children, you are living wrong, my friend.
“Freedom is what you do with what’s been done to you.”- Jean-Paul Sartre