There is a saying if you love someone let them go… I am seriously starting to wonder if there was a little-known part that has been forgotten that goes something like this: If you hate them make them stay and torture them to no end!
The x-hole has gone above and beyond the call of duty in this aspect. He has insisted form the beginning that I should leave the family home! A bit shocking seeing as how the easiest thing for all parties involved would be for him to leave. However, I moved a lot when I was small and since we have lived in our current house for over eight years I was fine to move and thought it would be one less thing to fight over. WRONG!
As a true Stepford wife, I have never worked since I moved to Switzerland and certainly did not put any money away for a rainy day! Wasn’t it supposed to be all sunshine and rainbows, but I digress…
I now find myself in the unfortunate situation of being completely financially dependent on him. He wants me to move and I have agreed to do so and have even visited several houses, but he refuses to pay!!! Insert rolled eyes, snapped neck and every other WTF gesture you can think of. Let me repeat: he wants me to move but does not want to pay for any of the houses that I have found and are available for IMMEDIATE OCCUPATION!!
I am at a total loss for words. It has been nearly 18 months since I asked for a divorce and we still live together… under the same roof… in the same house. Let’ s just say I am reaching my breaking point. The fact that I have to see his face EVERY day is making me physically ill and I have the medical certificates to prove it.
However, the conundrum that is the Swiss legal system does not seem to care that I am being forced to live with a person who is thriving in the passive aggressive environment. The situation is rapidly deteriorating and it is all I can do to keep it together. I have tried to reason with him, but to no avail. It seems like he will only be satisfied with my total destruction.
What is breaking my heart in ways that I have not even fully processed is that my children are watching this downward spiral. He never misses am chance to insult and disrespect me in front of them. If you read my post: https://ledivorcee.com/2016/10/12/my-wtf-moment-2/ it explains that this is one of the major reasons that I decided to end my marriage. The x-holes toxic behaviour and actions were being observed and emulated by our children.
At this moment, I still have no money and cannot afford to move without the financial support of the x-hole- which I am entitled to. So, either I wait for the slow slow machine that is the Swiss legal system or I take matters in to my own under financed hands. All I know is that my children are watching and I do not like what they are seeing.
I have been calling on all the saints to help guide me through this tunnel. What do you my loves have to say?
Change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end…