As the universe is always conspiring in my favor (and yours too), my very first blog post falls on my tenth wedding anniversary! Oh the plans I had for this day…but I digress. There will be no big party in a fabulous location, there will be no amazing gown, and there most definitely will not be any renewing of vows! Instead on this day, I chose to celebrate my membership into a new club; Le Divorcée.
As it turns out, it is not very exclusive at all. Since I a started on this long road to freedom; (yes, freedom) it seems that everyone I meet is divorced, in the process of divorce, or weighing the pros and cons of divorce. I was shocked to find that in the tiny city of Geneva,Switzerland the divorce rate is 49.9%! You read right, 49.9%!!! That means that nearly half of the marriages in this tiny little place don’t work out. It is good to know that I am not alone but geesh. So I thought, I know several people in similar situations and if half the married people where I live were divorced or would one day be divorced than my thoughts could resonate with many people.
Are you wondering why, I likend my request for a divorce, to quest for freedom? For me that is essentially what it has become. My marriage was not all bad, but towards the end I began to feel stifled and trapped. I felt like a bird in cage who was only allowed out when company was over to demonstrate whatever new skill I had acquired. For someone like me that is no way to live! Reaching the decision to divorce was hard, to put it mildly. I was no longer the fiercely independent young woman I once was. I am now a kept woman, a mother of two, an expat living in a foreign country, a real bonafide Stepford wife! What was I thinking? Did I have the courage, the strength, the money (money is always an issue), the confidence, to try this thing called life on my own? The more and more I thought about it, the answer was a resounding YES!
So on this day, I am not sad about the past and the failure of a marriage. I am excited about starting the next phase of my life and all the possibilities out there waiting for me.
No longer a caged bird, just a girl who is ready to fly!